I had an interesting conversation with another “Mom” the other day about the fact that her two boys ages 4 & 6 get $10 a week for allowances. I asked the woman what her children did to earn this allowance because I have been thinking about Daisy and her being old enough or not for an allowance. What exactly was traded for this money?
The woman’s reply was oh’ no they don’t have chores to do they just get it every week. WHAT!? the little voice inside me yelled in disbelief. This woman just hands hard earned money over to her children with out them learning anything other than money must fall from trees or in this case just comes out of Mom’s pocket like magic?
Now here at 4 years old Daisy has several things she is responsible for every day, sometimes several times a day. Actually she just joins in on what ever task is being done and does her best to help. If you look through this blog you will find all sorts of examples. She is my side-kick and never very far away from the activities. She isn’t a little couch potato with no idea in the world what is going on around her. She has so many valuable life skills at her young age that many will never know in their life time. Daisy is very fortunate and will do well in the world.
- She feeds her chickens and collects eggs (with my help)
- helps to clean the barn and feed the horses
- is expected to keep her toys and room picked up
- is expected to keep her clothes picked up- dirty in the hamper and clean in her dresser
- Helps clean off and set the table for each meal
- Helps me do the dishes and laundry
- Helps in the garden/yard when asked
She does these things just like everyone else does because things need to be done, the place wouldn’t run for long if the work never got done. She isn’t paid for her responsibility to keep the family safe, happy and healthy, no one else around here is. I don’t think for a second I am wrong, I worked hard growing up, my boys still do and so does Daisy.
We work on teaching her the value of money and saving money when she gets it for holidays or her birthday. As she gets older we will expand on this.
So my thought was what exactly would a child get an allowance for? Where is this world going to end up if the next generation is taught that things are just given to them? What a scary thought. I already see it happening, I asked several of the teenage boys around if they would like to come help me weed out the old garden bed. Their answer was no they would not, $10 an hour was not enough money for them because it was such hard work. HARD WORK ? OKAY?
I asked the same question to a woman my age who is looking for work (she lost her job earlier this year) and she jumped at the chance and actually beat me home to get started. She has been weeding gardens around the town for $3 an hour. Now that I think is taking advantage of her and a whole different subject. I paid her $10. When she was done there was not a blade of grass, a stick, root or leaf, I have never seen such a nice job! She didn’t want me to help, telling me I was paying her to do the job she would do it.
So what happened over the course of a single generation? What would a child get an allowance for?