Simple Living is a Journey

irisA dear long time friend of mine has been for several years trying her hand at living more simply. She is the girl that had the prestigious city job, fancy car and clothes (neither over 6 months old), what she calls a trophy husband (this I don’t understand at all), and a couple of years ago decided she wanted to live in the country, run a farm and work from home.

I told her the way to do this was small steps and she would wake up one morning to find her goals met but not overnight. We have made jelly and jams, bread, sewn and laughed together. She now does work from home via computer and even has chickens and cows. They sold their condo and bought a small farm house not far from here. Things are looking good. Homemade curtains in all the windows and a dog running in the yard…

Her biggest problem  for the past few months is convincing her husband this is what they both need to do. He doesn’t agree and fusses over every change that is made. She called today in tears that he asked her when she was going shopping to buy bread he was tired of the homemade. (Hers is wonderful and nothing to turn a nose up to!) I simply could only assure her that not everyone would or does have her ambitions, and not to see it as failure. Perhaps buy his bread and continue to bake her own. Maybe find out what about it he doesn’t like, is it sliced to thick, is it to dry or not “Wonder” like enough?

Homesteading is a challenge every step of the way. You will take small steps forward and huge steps backward. Its a journey not a destination. So too, not everyone in your house will agree or like all the changes. Keep the changes small and if it doesn’t work so what, try something else. Laura Ingels with a wash board and oil lamps you don’t have to be. Find what works for your family and do that. So he doesn’t like the homemade bread but he does like having more money in the bank, and he does brag to his friends how good her homemade spaghetti sauce with tomatoes from their own garden is.

She uses her build-in dishwasher for storage and I can’t live one day without mine. She has a great woodstove she can cook on, I can’t have one because of health reasons with my son (the smoke and his asthma). You might live in a house or apartment with no room for a garden but you might have room for a few planter pots to grow a few tomatoes or salad greens. You might like to wear aprons I don’t. You might not be able to live without Tupperware and plastic wrap, I can’t live without my glass storage jars and wax paper. My husband HAS to watch the news on tv every night, I can and did live without a tv for many years. He watches tv and I go to the sewing machine.

My advise is to be yourself, do what makes you and your family happy and don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. Don’t try to force change on your family. Try something if it doesn’t work talk about why not and change it again, try another solution or approach.

A simple life is the journey…and should be a happy one for everyone.


Posted on December 22, 2008, in Planning and tagged , , . Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. Great advice, even for the nonhomesteader. It will come in handy for living my busy work life. Thank you. 🙂

  2. You are welcome. While the concept is simple remembering it some times is the hard part.:)


  3. I absolutely love this blog.. I am a homemaker and I am also very frugal. My family understands that money=time. Every dollar my husband makes we optimize to the fullest. With 7 people in this house from age 1 to 33. We make all our own soaps, m daughter has severe eczema. We also have almost no waste in our house because we burn our paper & feed scraps to our farm animals.. I couldn’t live life any other way. I am the country homemaker and m husband the the computer software engineer. We deffinately appreciate each others hand in our journey. Thanks for the reassurance we aren’t the only ones out there ..

  4. Hi Heather,
    I’m so happy to hear you are living the journey. It’s hard work and some times very trying, under appreciated, and some times little thanks but well worth the effort when you see your family happy, cared for and enjoying their lives.

    Country living is a good life.

    Take care.

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